SATURDAY: ENERGY GIVERS AND SUCKERS
“Don’t hold onto your anger, hurt and pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love”
Anonymous
Have you ever woken feeling pretty energetic and then encountered someone who leaves you feeling completely drained in only five minutes? These people are real and I call them energy suckers. They are psychic vampires!
I bet at some stage in your work career, you have had someone on your team like this. What was it like when they left? It seems as if the sun came out! Everyone was laughing and happy all of a sudden!
That’s the impact an energy sucker can make in your life. One energy sucker can destroy a very large team! Typically they are pessimists and cynics, and/or they think they are superior. They often put people down to make themselves feel better.
Avoid them like the plague! Do everything you can to limit your time and exposure to these people. If you have to be around them, try to prepare yourself. Imagine there is a cocoon of armor or light or some impenetrable material around you. You can give energy out of this cocoon, but no one can take it out without your permission. This sounds silly but it is pretty effective!
If you live with an energy sucker—try the cocoon. (You can show them the DVD I have available on my web site describing the difference and hopefully they will hear the hint!) Try to counteract the time you have to spend with these energy suckers by hanging around lots of energy givers.
Energy givers are happy, optimistic, upbeat, positive people and they always make us feel better. Hang around them as much as you can. Try to be one as well. Do the things in this book and you automatically become an energy giver!
Whose job is it to teach children optimism? Parents, of course! But because we don’t consciously make it our job to teach children optimism, we often model energy-sucking ways for them. And then we wonder why some, or all, of our children are little energy suckers!
Be cheerful and focus on helping children see the bright side of life, rather than the rush, frustration, anger and disappointment. They will have plenty of time to learn that themselves when they are older.
Today is the day you are to make your home a haven for energy givers. Banish energy suckers! Be positive, optimistic, play and have fun with your family. Laugh a lot.
Be the CEO – the chief energy officer!
Comments
well that’s tricky one Jill! What I do is to wake up each morning and pray and then put a white light coccoon around me that says no one can take energy out without my permission! and try all the other strategies in the book…can you get him to read it?! If all else fails, find YOUR joy and then stick to it – let no one and nothing steal it away!! Even if you have to sneak off sometimes and do a joy jig! Seriously, if you start making the changes, he will respond in some way. Have you talked to him about the idea – well not that he is an energy sucker but ask him if he is happy and if not, what can you both do about it. If he is a pessimist then let him know he can rewire his brain – i can give you the names of lots of books that will tell him how – learned optimism is a good one by martin seligman. Hanging around pessimistic people starts our brains operating in that way themselves! I hope there is some help in this reply somewhere Jill – i am sending zooties!
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