What are your TRUE beliefs about the opposite sex?
So my latest journey is ‘inner travel’!
I am about to embark on letting go of a very old belief in my life. I will share it with you in the hope that it helps someone – although it makes me a bit vulnerable!
I have realised that deep in my unconscious, (although I had always believed my childhood was fine cos I had a wonderful, loving mother), somewhere I had a deep seated dislike and distrust of men! My father was an alcoholic and they divorced when I was 5.
This has made life very difficult for my husband! Who it turns out is a patient saint! Gosh it took a long time for me to ‘get’ that I was creating my own reality with my beliefs. I knew it ‘in my head’, but not as a real ‘knowing’ where I took responsiblity for it – and changed it.
I hope this is not too personal and boring for others but I have discovered along the way that there are many women who do not respect and admire men generally! And vice versa. Of course, we have to be discerning – there are many who may need to change before we respect and admire their actions or words, but as human spirits we need to respect and admire all the human spirits around us!
As we start off the new year, examine your deeply held beliefs about the opposite sex. If you are a bloke reading this – how was your relationship with your mother – what do you really feel about her? Because that represents how you will think all women are at some level!
Look at your relationships and see if there are any patterns which may give you a clue – cos often how we feel about the opposite sex is completely out of our awareness. And even if we are aware, we often don’t understand the significance of it and how it affects our daily interactions. (Note – like me!)
This is a big concept for all of us – what do you really believe about the opposite sex? What do you tell yourself about them? And is it really true? Or just your perception, based on your experiences?
Happy New Year to everyone and I hope 2010 brings you all the joy you can imagine – and the ability to see the true spirit of everyone in your life!
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Thanks, Amanda, for sharing your past belief about men and how you have come to a new realization of the basis for that belief. I left a marriage after 22 years with a man who could not exist without drinking and the verbal abuse that went along with it. Have remarried to a kind sensitive person who gets me. I, too, try to teach others about turning inward and getting tuned into their own journey and learning the lessons of life. And I struggle to take the time for myself to listen. A great book to keep on your shelf for reference is Ted Andrews Animal Speak. There are reasons birds and other animals come in to our lives to give us messages. And if it becomes clear that an animal has shown itself several times to you (and it can be a dead animal on the road as with the skunks I kept seeing-which meant to put boundaries in place with certain people in my life). When I got the message, the road became free of skunk bodies. I know that sounds weird but God does work in mysterious ways and we are still learning all the ways we can get guidance for our lives.
Thank you for your honesty, you have been an inspiration in my life since I saw you on stage and purchased your DVD, Live Out Loud complete with magic wand! Thanks for the joy reminder, I was just playing some Luther Vandross today while trying to get the song “Man in the Mirror” from Michael Jackson out of my head…have been singing it everyday…I guess that this is just a sign to keep working on myself and doing that mirror work that Louise Hay talks about “I love you” in the mirror several times every day to help to get past the painful lessons of the past.
Blessings, Ann
Hello Ann! I am so happy that you found someone lovely – thank you for the tip about the book..for me, it is butterflies – they are from my mum! I am glad you have moved the skunks on ! LOL thank you for your kind encouragement and sharing your ideas Ann – i really appreciate them and am right there with you on the mirror stuff! One lifetim ewhen i have the wisdom to say i am grown up – we can sit and laugh about our experiences along the way! zooties galore amanda
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